While that’s a good start, to actually get results a little more strategy is required.Ultimately, it comes down to two things: – Going to places rich with NEW people ¬– While it’s tempting to go over to your friends house for a movie night with four other pals and convincing yourself that you’re “getting out there”, it’s likely that the only new guy you’ll meet is a pizza delivery boy.One of the best advantages of online dating is the ability to control the pace of romantic prospects. But there’s a fine line between being open-minded and going out with anyone who can string together three sentences in a decent email.Make a list of your deal breakers and stick to them.Now in my late twenties, the gulf between the mindset of my single friends and those in long-term relationships is vast.
They’ll be the ones who go to the club and purposely remain huddled with their friends all evening, or they attend a friend’s party and latch on to the one person they know, or they show up to the new evening class or speaking event, only to keep their head down and never interact with the strangers around them.
This is a sure-fire way to blow a ton of opportunities for potential dating.
As a single person, although it’s nice to think it will just happen, it usually “just happens” the most to people who are naturally pro-active and make an effort to connect with lots of people.
This is also why having nothing but coupled-up/married friends can be a disaster for your dating life.
Even if they mean well and you love them dearly – most couples have zero interest in meeting ANY new people and will for the most part keep you sheltered in a hermetic bubble with them.