I’m all for staying genuine friends with exes, but if you tend to harbour feelings for them and have been slipping them a piece, it’s time to cut ties as you’re unavailable for an available relationship. You’re not really friends when you’re practically stalking them. Texting and calling all the time, even when they don’t respond? It may be a good time to spend some time with a professional, especially if you feel like you ‘can’t’ stop and it’s impacting greatly on your life. If you’re maintaining a ‘friendship’ with a view to keeping them as a rainy day option or out of fear that your old ‘investment’ may be snapped up by someone else, you’re like a dog in a manger; you don’t want them but you don’t want anyone else to have them either.
Checking their Facebook profile as soon as you wake and trawling their mutual friends? It’s also like keeping guard so that you can say “Oh thank goodness! ” This is not friendship and the worst thing is, if you’ve ever been with Mr or Miss Unavailable, you hate being on the receiving end of this. It’s impossible to let go and grieve the loss of the relationship, if you’re still holding out hope.
Reading the articles at this website will satisfy your curiosity about what a TS is, what she needs and how she thinks. Women love to be "taken" by a masculine man, since it is the act of erotic surrender that centers them, that makes them feel like "a real woman." Therefore, hardly any TS with the sensibilities of a woman will be looking to "top" a guy or will be looking for a guy who wants to suck her dick.
Therefore, a man doesn't need to bring up TS issues on the first date. I keep using the expression, "a TS with the sensibilities of a GG..." for a reason, to distinguish the TS who wants to be treated as a woman, who fully identifies with being a woman, from those who cater to the submissive male crowd, the bi-male crowd and the thrill-seeking crowd for money. If he's just looking for a blowjob from a TS, or wants to suck some TS dick, cool. If he wants to get something real going, then forget about the escorts. Those girls get lied to every hour of every day and have heard it all.
Don’t make the mistake of assuming that because they don’t have the pressure of a relationship that they’ll act better – you are setting yourself up for a fall. The friendship will convey all of the wrong messages about you – you can tell a lot about someone by the company they keep.
You do know that people are suspicious of those who claim they’re friends with all of their exes, don’t you?
I’m not foolish enough to think that in the first month or so after a breakup that you might not have “…one last shag for old times sake” or see each other at a wedding or wherever months later and have a “drunken one-off”, but an ex pulling The Friend Card and then tapping you for a shag as often as possible, tapping you for money or for an ego stroke behind a new partner’s back, or playing mind games with you? Sex with an ex can seem like the easiest option as it’s ‘familiar’, ‘comfortable’ and let’s be real, ‘easier’ than going out there and having to put in all that effort for a ‘new’ person, but guess what? Also – and you’d be surprised how many fall for this – the fact that they want to shag you or you’ve shagged doesn’t mean you’re getting back together! If all you’re doing is graduating from doormat in a relationship to doormat friend, it’s time to stand tall and gather up your self-respect. You must understand – the great majority of people play The Friend Card after a breakup. Just like you cannot force someone to do something as basic as pick up the phone, to make an effort, or to commit, you cannot force friendship and why the hell would you want to?
Some men find today's so-called independent woman to be not very feminine at all, overly assertive, argumentative, prone to characterizing a simple male advance as "harassment," and a general pain in the ass to be around. A lot of guys who show interest in TS's are, in fact, bisexual. TS's tell me that most of the guys who contact them are, in fact, bisexual or bi-curious. For the guys just seeking a sexual experience, there are plenty of shemale escorts available who will happily provide an exciting experience for a fee, without any danger of commitment. Use a search engine, search under keywords "shemale escorts (enter name of your city or state)" -- odds are you will find what you need.A ‘friendship’ to stem the loss, will delay the inevitable and possibly make it worse.Accept that it’s over first before you go down the friendship route. Friendship is more than a word – it’s a sum of consistent and repeated actions.