Imagine being trapped in a life you don't want, a fate you can't change.
Imagine people deciding who you are with a glance—and getting it wrong, every time.
"But he also wasn't the older brother you idolized because he talked about girls and partying—and I understand now why that is. There were occasions when someone would pick on me, and he'd stand up to them.
He was there for me when I needed him." Cassandra Smith, now 46 and a nurse for the San Francisco school district, says, "I always knew there was a sadness about my sibling.
Ming came to Gild because she believes that the tech world's hiring criteria are needlessly—and detrimentally—exclusionary.
"I didn't understand why the jokes boys told were funny, why boys were so crude.
I explained it to myself as, Well, they're all just idiots." She pauses to let the punch line land: "Which largely holds true right up through the fraternity years." And yet Evan did the things boys are supposed to do, and did them well.
In other words, if a programmer isn't enrolled in one of a handful of prestigious universities or already in the tech game, he or she is shut out of the running entirely. "We don't much care where you went to school or where you've worked," says Ming.
"What we care about is, are you good at the thing you want to do?