I guess it's one of those things were you have to weigh the pros and cons of the situation... Siobhan I am non-greek, but my last boyfriend was a member of Kappa Alpha Psi and to be honest I couldn't handle it. I *had* to keep in mind that *HE WAS A NUPE BEFORE ME AND HE WILL BE A NUPE AFTER ME* so, I tried to chill. To this day I am not sure if I made the wrong or right choice.If It wasn't women hanging all over him it was parties, if it wasn't the parties, it was his job. So All I have to say is Differnt strokes for Different Folks.
And yes, often times affiliations can make a person more mature (or vice versa! My personal experience is an (im)perfect example: a relationship with a greek guy did not work well (among other things, he looked down on my own greek involvement..that make sense??? The guy I'm dating now is not greek (though he has just as serious committments to an Order he belongs to), but a delightful, supportive young man. have never dated a greek man, before or after I became greek.
He was trippin over the committe meetings and chapter meetings that I had to go to.
Either he didn't understand or he was flat out jealous (he wanted to be greek but didn't have the grades).
As for the groupies, it's up to the member to keep them in check.
If you know you have a boyfriend or girlfriend (yes, sororities have groupies too) it's your responsibility to control yourself around them and make them aware the you're in a relationship and you're not going to have any foolishness.