So yes, I am calling out “evangelical” black churches on this one.By relentlessly pushing marriage and prosperity as the only gospel message, idolizing “the pastor and the pastor’s wife,” and not dealing with the real stressors in black women’s lives, this situation is not going to change.It is difficult for single ministers and pastors to meet other single ministers and pastors when the only places you go are church and ministry related functions.I have really found it difficult…Continue Hello I would like to say that my wife and I are single relationship teachers and we are over the singles ministry in our church and also have a singles ministry broadcast, so you can see that we…Continue YOU WILL BE MY WITNESS A Gospel Tract Workshop By Warrior Richardson, Instructor Develop drawing skills and learn to use them to present the good news about Jesus Christ in a fun and exciting way.Having a husband meant that they could not give their ultimate all for the number one man on most African-American womens’ lips, and it’s not Denzel. For many women in churches like COGIC, being in love with Jesus means that most other men, whether desirable as a husband or not, stood in the way of the number one relationship.One person I interviewed even had a name for it: “being loosed” from your husband to do the Lord’s work.
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“Being loosed” could happen because the husband left because the wife was at church too much, they divorced, or the husband died.
Others were in horrible marriages, often with physical and emotional abuse involved. Yet the church held to the belief that marriage was the most important, desirable state. I’d have to agree with the original blogger Deborrah Cooper that “blind faith” is the crux of the issue. The “waiting on the Lord” theme, being told to be like Ruth and wait until your Boaz finds you, and my favorite, “Let the Lord be your husband” are just trite pacifiers designed to keep women in the pews, sexually inactive, their purses open.
There are more important things to talk about, such as that eye-opening survey on black women’s net worth, and the fact that unemployment in the African-American community is 15.6% across the country. Look, black women can marry, unless they want to marry another woman, which they can’t do in most states.
I don’t see how this marriage thing is an important story when poverty and hopelessness are driving women to kill their own children.